- Mom and bestie will check up on you...daily. They will probably give you tips on self-defense and homemade booby traps, oh and remind you about that one episode of Forensic Files.
- You learn just how clean you really are. When it’s just you, you can make as huge a mess as you want without mom yelling at you. But have you checked the dishes in the sink lately? You might want to get to that unless you want roaches.
- You feel more “grown up” and independent...which means you’re paying bills and only have yourself to blame when the electricity bill is all kinds of crazy numbers. The cool part is that you get to decorate your space however the hell you please.
- You learn more about yourself in general...from your daily schedule to the little habits that annoyed your sister all those years. You finally get clear of the distraction of living with your family and finally get to focus on just you.
- You’re never too old for a night light. Living alone get’s creepy, especially after watching the newest episodes of the freakshow American Horror Story. You start thinking too much and would rather get mauled by monsters in the light.
- Walking around naked is a normal thing. You don’t have to be self-conscious about being naked out in the open or even letting out the biggest burp. It’s your space, you get to use it how you please.
- You learn how to shop for what you need instead of what you want. One thing I miss a lot is tagging along when mom goes shopping. Not only is it fun to talk to her on our trips to the fashion outlet or grocery store, but she foots the bill! Now that you’re all “grown up”, paying your own bills and what not, you’d be lucky if she buys you that new rug you've been dreaming of. It's time to budget and allocate your money wisely.
- You learn to use your imagination a little bit more. For the first two weeks of living alone, I didn't have my internet or cable setup because I was too busy cleaning, fixing and moving shit. It was up to me to find ways to entertain myself and it wasn't so bad. I mostly sat around eating, staring into the blank spaces and fantasizing about the colorful home I was going to create. It’s pretty fun.
- You get to cook what you want, when you want, and eat it wherever and however you want! Freedom never tasted so delish! Drink out of the jug; never use a cup again. Order late night pizza delivery and have the whole box to yourself, ranch included.
- There’s a difference between being alone and being lonely. I was so excited to get my own place and wasn't really worried about living alone. Sometimes I crave the company of myself; it’s freeing. I can sit with no distraction and sift through the thousands of thoughts and emotions I have in a day and scratch my butt while I do it. Solitude is like meditation, good for the soul.
Being lonely is different. If you feel lonely, you don’t enjoy being alone. As a matter of fact if you are lonely, it pains you to be alone. Loneliness brings feelings of sadness instead of clarity or anger instead of understanding. We've all felt this before and if it happens again, the best way to surpass it is to simply talk to someone and vent how we've been feeling. Even if you don’t have the money to afford a therapist or counselor, there are tons of free resources like blogging, or even social media sites like Twitter and Facebook where you can vent. Just tell someone how you’re feeling, because we've all been there and chances are someone will understand how you feel.
Thanks for reading these 10 lessons I learned while living alone. It hasn't been that long and it won’t be for too long, but I’m enjoying it and learning more and more about myself and the world around me everyday. I would suggest trying it. Comment below with some of the lessons you've learned while living alone.
Love, Miss Jean