"Lookin for these better days,
Better days, heyyy! Better days...Got me thinkin bout better days..."
Everyday isn't going to be all happy-go-lucky, but there are little things we can do for ourselves each day that will help get us through the tough times. I've been so busy enjoying the highs that I forgot that I also have to deal with the lows in this cycle we called life. Both are necessary to have a fulfilling life. I mean how could we truly savor the good days if we've never had a bad one? Well, I had a bad day today and refuse to let one bad day overshadow all the good ones. I can easily feed the negativity and self-pity that hangs around on bad days, but I've decided that I deserve better so it stops here!
Whether it's because I didn't get enough sleep, haven't been eating enough fruits and veggies, hormone imbalance, annoying humans, or even something deep-rooted in my subconscious, the fact is I had a shitty day and can't take it back. I've been sulking in my own misery and complaining about it all day and it's time for a change, aka an attitude adjustment! So, here are some ways I've given myself the much-needed space to turn my day around. Allowing even just a few minutes out of your day for any of these small moments can make a huge difference in how you think and feel the rest of the day. Love yourself!
I feel like a large part of my grumpiness could have been from the lack of sleep I had the previous night. It's easy to tip the balance when you're trying to juggle multiple things and people in your everyday life and sometimes precious sleeping time is compromised. Humans need sleep to survive. It allows our bodies and minds to recharge and when we don't get enough sleep it affects us both physically and mentally. Even getting a quick nap in during the day can help.
2. Open up
What better way to vent your frustrations and get them out of your system than by sharing them with someone close, just make sure you're willing to let them do the same. Sometimes we get so caught up in our own everyday dramas, we forget that there are bigger problems in the world and opening up to a close friend or family member who in turn gives us advice, can give us some perspective. And sometimes it's enough just for someone to hear you out.
3. Try Yoga or stretching
Changing the movements of your body can literally change the focus of your thoughts. Yoga and deep stretching are a few ways to develop a balance between mind and body. For emergencies I'd take 3 deep breaths and a "woosaah". Breathing is a weird/cool sensation and it's interesting that we cannot see it, but we definitely feel it. We need it. Yoga incorporates breathing control with transitional body poses, which I think is a great discipline in learning balance while relaxing.
4. Go outside
I was always outside playing with friends and family as a kid, so a lot of my fun, carefree experiences have come alive outside. Home is nice, and comforting, but going outside is freeing and refreshing. It allows us fresh air and another perspective in order to regroup and refocus. Even if you don't particularly enjoy nature, just try stepping outside for a second to catch a glimpse of what's going on. Nature persists, no matter what goes on in our human world. The leaves fall. The grass grows and dies and grows again. In our cycle of ups and downs and in-betweens...life goes on.
5. Put the phone down
My phone might as well be attached to my hip. I freak out when I don't have it with me and it's the first thing I go to when I wake up. I've become attached and realize that sometimes even my phone needs a break from me. The only reason we even have phones is to communicate with other people and build our relationships. Relationships are what really matter at the end of the day, whether it be with someone else or the internal relationship you have with yourself. Taking a short break from the chaos of social media and iPhone chatter forces us to sit with ourselves and ponder our own thoughts. Instead of the usual phone venting, try writing it down, exercising it out, or singing it away. And then move on.
These are just a few of the small ways that have helped me change my attitude on my off days. It's easy to constantly worry and complain about everything going wrong in life, but that's only a waste of time and it robs us of everything good we could be creating and cherishing, right now. Thank you for reading and please feel free to comment below with ways that help you get through a bad day!
Love, Miss Jean